Love at first sight does not exist.
Psychologists state that infatuation and hard passion last for three months for women and four for men. During the first four days, passion is out of control, affection follows for ten days, and then affection until comes put you in a bad mood to listen like washes the teeth.
That mental swarming, that to live without living in my, that so satisfactory physical exhaustion, the tickling of the anxiety, those astronomical telephone accounts. ... All this hard what has to last, little. Serious unjust and it would lose authenticity if the infatuation were more habitual or if lasted all the life. We confuse the bowshot with the mental and physical relief.
In it USES I have verified that socially is believed in the existence of the love at first sight, is considered normal and natural. I believe that the fever with the love is confused. And that we believe more in the movies of what we would owe, that is fruit of the bad influence that on us they exercise the television, the novels and the movies.
The abnormal behavior of a lover is declared of such form among the Americans that comes be so unreal that terrifies. Tries to reproduce in the daily life the hyphen of a television series, the love of commercial and clearly thus hard what has to last.
All we know that announcements were lies, that never the whole truth was counted and that disguised the reality. That to the strollers them they are finished the batteries and that the superhéroes of plastic do not fly alone, that the imagination of a boy is fundamental from there the great success of the toys. And here, in it USES, the love is like a toy since with imagination reproduces itself the romantic comedy, and clearly when one realizes that it evil also counts, the toy no longer so is amused. And nobody can keep to his couple in a box until he desire him to play again. He is that no longer we are children the bad drinks of the life have removed us so much the illusion as the imagination.
Each time that court an exponential growth of our ego is produced. The more ourselves quieran better we are and stronger we feel. Few times we have the opportunity to see us as unique and special beings. Knowing that we court the spirit elevates us. The human being lives trying to perpetuate its presence in the land, trying that he keep in mind him itself, seeking the recognition and the social applause and all this he gives it us the love although be nearly time. Being so important for someone us full the ego, causes feels us useful. And also weak, to depend on someone al same time terrifies us. We are so terribly egotistical and that we prefer in many cases to undertake the flight, to leave running al to be afraid that be annulled us or eclipse.
Al principle never we want to recognize that has disappeared the passion and that this is normal. First we want to think that if we continue lovers, that all those phrases that felt with force when we pronounced them al heat of the hug they continue in force. That when we promised aloud "we go to fight together so that this break not never" was certain. That when we said "I want to know your defects and to love you just as you are" was certain, and is not certain.
The love needs the idealization of the to be wanted and the humans we are that human full of errors and imperfections that even bother al but conformist. And clearly when we begin to verify that its errors if bother us, that its imperfections do not turn out to be understandable begins us to be dispelled the magic, the chemistry and everything that have that to disappear.
Many fall in the comfort being deceived to itself, they endeavor for believing that continue lovers. I have a friend that has an infallible technique so that its lies they create him and is believing them to him he himself, obtains some infallible results. It is lawful to be left to want. And the fact is that to all we like that us quieran, that keep in mind us, but we cannot confuse us, not this sensation can drag us to live eternally deceived. All the lies expire and the devil always leaves the tail he was.
We cannot believe to a couple when they say: "We carry 20 married years and we continue lovers as the first day". This is impossible, totally impossible. As the first day themselves is not wanted never because every day they are different. And each time you know more the other person, and us do not we deceive in the others always there are defects that bother us. The ignorant they are happier is always better not to know it all.
Some as I we dare to assure that there are born lovers. The loves last what last and less badly, if these lover/to happinesses and that be during more than three months to discredit the scientists.
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